About the Author

Hi!
I am an adoptive Mom with the experience of raising 2 adopted children. At the time of writing this, my son is 15 and my daughter is 10. I have realized over the years that the majority of people (through ignorance) view adoption as ‘something amiss’. They perceive the situation to be ‘not quite natural’ and surely raising adopted children cannot be like raising your own, natural children. I believe that the experience of raising children, adopted or not … is the same. Yes, there are certain issues that you will have to tackle differently.

Children will ALWAYS look for a weak area that they can use as ammunition, and if they have ‘adoption’ on the list, then so be it. If they don’t have ‘adoption’ then rest assured, they will find something else. So adoptive parents have to be aware of this and not take it personally, however difficult it may be. Always be aware and alert and learn from your and other people’s mistakes. We do make mistakes, all of us. And we do have different situations as no two children are alike. And yes, perhaps not all adopted children turn out the way you envisioned, but neither do some biological children.

Becoming an adoptive parent, you tend to become more aware of the subject and you are also exposed to many people who have adopted. In the vast circle of adoptive parents that I have come across, I, personally, have not met one single person who is not an exemplary example of a good parent. I think adoptive parents try very, very hard at being a good parent and I commend them all!

So my purpose here is to tell you a bit about our situation, how it came about but mostly to ‘diarize’ certain events showing firstly, that raising an adopted child is not very different to raising a biological child. Secondly, to perhaps offer an insight to those ‘adopted-related’ moments in my children’s lives which could be of assistance? The accounts of my two children will also show how different they are as individuals, even though they are both adopted!
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