Handling problems and issues can be tough

Dealing with problems is not always the most pleasant experience and if not dealt with in the appropriate manner can cause more issues than solutions.

We all experienced our own problems growing up and as such had many problems to consider at different times.

In the adopted child's life this is no different.

Examples of these are birth parent issues, teenage pregnancy, self esteem, physical abuse, keeping secrets, brat behaviour, school problems - to name a few.

It's really interesting to observe how most people struggle with problem resolution in dealing with children overall.

As with all of us, parenting is a hard game due to the emotional attachment to our children whether they be biological or adopted, and the fact that, well, we're dealing with the millenium generation who are not us Generation X or more mature Baby Boomers who started with babies a little later.

That's why it's really important to look to the experiences of others to help with what we think is a huge problem, but which could be perceived as a smaller one by other parents. We're all different and have different approaches to handling problems.

You will find sharing adoption experiences in general uplifting and that's part of what this website is about.

Below, with a click on your mouse button you will will find guidance on how to handle the following problems:-

BIRTH PARENTS - What about the birth parents? Is there an impact? Let's look at The impact of Open Adoption on Birth Parents

ESTEEM in any human being is something that can take a tumble during tough circumstances. Here we cover How to help your adopted child build self esteem

SECRETS? Perhaps great for those who want to keep them, but maybe not good for those whom these are kept from? Do you believe in Secrecy or not?

TEENAGERS - The teenage years are probably the most challenging in raising our children due to the fact that so many changes are taking place in their lives.

Growth, awareness of self, social interactions all becoming very important to teens and often the enormous pressure of basically just 'fitting in'.

Information on how to handle these are key! With a click of your mouse learn how to handle Teens in trouble

Teenage Dangers - Being a parent today means you have to be alert, aware and on your guard 24/7. The more aware the parent, the better the chances of helping your volatile offspring! Teen dangers

TEENAGE PREGNANCY - a huge problem in society today - be aware of issues which extend to Teenage pregnancy

ABUSE We all read about it in the papers daily and often 'tut-tut' and flip over to the next page. The truth of the matter is that we have a very serious and deep rooted problem regarding physical abuse.

Society seems to have violent behaviour engrained and a sometimes deeply sad outcome is that this behaviour is often vented on children. Here is some insight regarding Physical abuse to children

DO WE GIVE IN TOO QUICKLY to our precious ones? Children learn very soon how to get the upper hand! We've all seen little Johnny or Sarah, screaming at the tops of their little lungs, and throwing huge tantrums....scary isn't it?

Could this be a precursor to preparing for Brathood?

Do a quick check-list here! Tips on how to avoid creating a brat!

COMMUNICATION - Never underestimate the power of communication!

We have covered communication briefly. However, to function properly, it needs to be a two-way thing. Here is some help on getting children to communicate back to you with Tips on talking with your children

CONNECTING WITH THE BIOLOGICAL SIDE - At some stage of the adoptees life, they will have thoughts regarding their biological family.

One has to make sure this is handled appropriately and here we deal with Linking up with the biological family

FIRST DAY BLUES - That first day at school can either be traumatic or memorable. Here is some help with Preparing yourself and your child for the first day at school

FINDING YOUR FAMILY DRIFTING APART? - This is something that can happen over time or quicker than one realises. Fragmented family?

DO YOU ALLOW YOUR CHILD TO SLEEP IN YOUR BED OR NOT? There is much positive and negative talk about this - Family Bed or not?

COPING WITH STRESS AND CRISIS- Here you will find extremely helpful guidance to surviving and coping with some of the most difficult challenges that face us in our daily lives. With a bit of informative guidance, we can prevent or manage situations, making sure that it does not become a crisis.

STAY AT HOME, OR BACK TO WORK? It's always a dilemma as to whether a new mother goes back to work or not

TALKING ABOUT SEX IS STILL TABOO IN MANY HOUSEHOLDS - The best approach for open and frank discussions regarding sex is for teens to have access to someone, or a platform (trusted group or person) to find out more should they feel uncomfortable in their immediate family. Here is a good option, it's called Sex Talk

LEARNING DIFFICULTIES is more common than we imagine. But don't be too hasty to turn to drugs without first looking at other more rational ways for help!!

Here may be an alternative when it comes to learning difficulties